• missn

Hello! Contemplating the religious life

Hi, I just recently joined the Church last year and am always eager to learn more about my faith. For many years now I have contemplated the idea of becoming a nun, however I just do not know if this is the path God wishes me to take. I had contacted a few convents, however at the time I had not joined the Church yet. It confuses me and makes me nervous, since I do not know what to do.

Well, anyways enough about me! Nice to meet you!
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Hi again

I think I posted in here a while ago but I thought I'd post again to let everyone know who I am and what's going on.

I don't know if anyone reading this attends OCF but I had a question about something I was wondering. Here's the thing. I went to an Evangelical college for 3 years of my college life and the ratio of women to men was 4 to 1. When I was brought into the Orthodox Church I discovered that the ratio of women to men is something like 1 to 8 (at least for my age group). There's a lot of young girls (age toddler to around 14 or 15) in the Church, but at the college level, at least in the OCF, it's been consistently for 3 years something more like 8 men to 1 woman. I'm just curious as to what are some people's ideas on why this is the way it is. I don't think it's bad in anyway, in fact, I have heard it argued that feminism kills Christianity, and the Church has been feminized since the early 20th century (men become/became secularized and women stay in the church, so that when women leave the church there's no one left).

I'd be interested on a deeper discussion of this issue. Why men possibly are more drawn to the Orthodox than the Evangelical churches (I haven't formed any opinion on the ratio of men to women in the Roman Catholic churches - it seems so far to be somewhat equal, but I could be wrong).

Well that's enough food for thought for now.

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I haven't been in this folder, nor posted in a long while. Probably 4 or 5 months. But, revisiting it tonight drew me to writing a post. I don't have anything specific on my mind, except that I wanted to write to encourage all of you in this strange but exciting journey of life and learning that we all share.

As for Orthodoxy, I have not committed myself to the faith, as of the current moment. I only discovered the Church in July of 2004 and still have many unanswered questions and have yet to explore the Roman Church and the Protestant Reformation, which I believe both to be important before making any big decision for any one Church. It's most likely, in large part, due to my age, twenty-four, that I am searching for where I belong.

I had a discussion tonight with a good friend. The discussion moved us up higher towards a place of newness. A higher plane, if you will. What we discussed started with a question, "Is reading the same as thinking?" and went from there. Instead of "shooting the breeze" or speaking "off the cuff" we encourage each other, or more like he mostly encourages me at this point, to go deeper, to speak better, to reach for higher things, in the vane of Socrates and the others who learned with him in the dialogues of Plato. My friend told me that Socrates said in one of his dialogues that the dialectic (this sort of deeper, more serious conversation with direction, questions, answers and thought) is worth more than 10,000 eyes. And I believe he is right. I would agree with Aristotle that this way of life can be painful. This life of learning, of dialogue, of the pursuit of wisdom, is often painful, but the desire for growth and improvement will always accompany pain. I am grateful for my friend and I am grateful for those who have struggled to bring us writers like Plato and Aristotle, and of course the Bible.

Well, I hope my post encourages someone. It's what is on my mind tonight, and I'd like to see this community continue.

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so i just got off the phone with my ex boyfriend. we broke up a little over a year ago, after he'd been out of the country for five months. i don't feel like it was the right decision to break up with him, but it did allow me to go out with someone new, who introduced me to orthodoxy, which i adored from my first liturgy. the new boyfriend ended up becoming my godbrother when we were chrismated this past lazarus saturday. my ex and i were talking about getting back together after he gets back from india in about a year.

he doesn't love orthodoxy the way i do. he respects it. he has read some writings by archimandrite seraphim aleksiev and he is currently reading the orthodox church by bishop kallistos ware. his major stumbling points are the theotokos and the saints, and the invisible church versus the "institutionalized" church. they don't match up with his idea of how God has been "speaking" to him.

basically, and i hate putting it this way, we feel really strongly attached to one another. i can't realistically imagine marrying another person. is that totally immature?

i'd just like to get some feedback and opinions, not to be interpreted as spiritual guidance (of course i will talk to my priest about this), of how i should be looking at this, and what i should be doing. cos i'm pretty lost and distressed. merci beacoup.
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a revelation and a feeling of elation

it took several 2x4 to the mental head but i finally got it.

i am happy with my current circumstance (well... most of it, i still want to change some things).  particularly, i'm happy with being single.

for starters, in my current position (present and otherwise), i don't know if it would be best to be with someone in an intimate relationship.  for starters, i have this persistent fear and worry that i will do more harm to someone else's life than good.  after all, part of marriage is not only sacrificing yourself to someone else but also receiving the sacrifice.  furthermore, st. paul expresses this eloquently about how the husband is called to love his wife as CHRIST loves His CHURCH.  it's a very very tall order (no license granting absolute power to the head of the household here).  and i know from my end, i want to do the best job i can through the grace of GOD and my short will to help execute GOD's grace.

the other is that i have the freedom to do what i need to do to get closer to GOD.  i don't think i would do what i'm doing now: directing the choir, writing and soon producing/directing omvendelsen, taking my first steps of independence from my family.  it will be someone to worry about... not that it's a bad thing but it will certainly preoccupy you.

i also find that with the way that the world encourages relationship, it's like tying a millstone around your neck and plunging yourself into the river.  there are less than holy motives for having a relationship and then there are less than holy means of keeping it.  for me, it's not worth getting into trouble like that for something that will be damaging to the soul.

i thought i was going to write more but i can't think of anything else.  but i just want to say that i'm now at peace... at least more so than i was several months ago.

and i've said it once and i'll say it again... screw dating (although i've said it much more strongly on my personal lj =] )
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I would love to hear what anyone has to say regarding this particular article...it was posted on the OCA website late yesterday morning...

Holy Synod of Bishops to hold special session


SYOSSET, NY [OCA Communications] — The Holy Synod of Bishops of the Orthodox Church in America will meet in special session at the Chancery here on Wednesday, March 1, 2006.

His Beatitude, Metropolitan Herman, called the session to review a number of issues facing the life of the Church.

The Holy Synod's regularly scheduled spring session, slated to be held at the Chancery immediately before the annual Memorial Day pilgrimage to Saint Tikhon's Monastery, South Canaan, PA, in May, 2006, will be held as announced.

In addition to Metropolitan Herman, who chairs the Holy Synod, the ruling diocesan hierarchs who will participate in the special session include His Eminence, Archbishop Kyrill of Pittsburgh and Western Pennsylvania and the Bulgarian Diocese; His Eminence, Archbishop Dmitri of Dallas and the South; His Eminence, Archbishop Nathaniel of Detroit and the Romanian Episcopate; His Eminence, Archbishop Job of Chicago and the Midwest; His Grace, Bishop Tikhon of San Francisco, Los Angeles, and the West; His Grace, Bishop Seraphim of Ottawa and Canada; His Grace, Bishop Nikolai of Sitka, Anchorage, and Alaska; His Grace, Bishop Nikon of Boston and New England and the Albanian Archdiocese; and His Grace, Bishop Tikhon of Philadelphia and Eastern Pennsylvania.
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I've been watching this group for a few weeks, so I was thinking that I should probably do some sort of introductory entry!
My name is Stephanie Smida (better known at Steph Smida) and I live in Ocean County, New Jersey. I am currently a student in Drexel University's program at Burlington College (Mt. Laurel and Mt. Holly) double-majoring in Environmental Scieces and Bio-Chemistry. I am a supervisor of an after-school program for elementary school kids through the YMCA and also working retail for a short while (extra cash for school!). I am also very involved in Girl Scouting- I am a Leader of a first and second grade Brownie troop, first aider for events, lifeguard, and coach for the Central/South Jersey girls canoe racing team sponsered by our council. I'm the older of two, "Daddy's Little Girl", and a perpetually doting older-sister to my little brother.
I am "cradle Orthodox"...and I take my life in the Church very seriously. It is who I am and what I do. I've had many very strong believers surrounding me my entire life, including my Dad and my Godfather (a priest), both graduates of St. Vlad's Seminary. My family is definitely Slav, Russian and Polish, and that has also had a huge effect on who I am. I sing soprano with two church choirs, as well as for the Garden State Philharmonic with their performance orchestra.
I love the beach (and lifeguarding on it), surfing, going to the movies, bargain shopping (leading to my collection of handbags and shoes), going "church hopping" with my fellow "Ladies in Black", going out with my brother, being with my Brownies, "digging in" with my team, being bored with my friends, and singing. I work on a few abstract paintings and scupltures in my spare time, and assist on a few graphics projects for my Dad's company.
I am single and have been for about a year and a half (not counting a few dates here and there). I have (finially!) come to the realization that trying to have a relationship with a non-believer is very complicated and has almost always ended in bad feelings (at least for me). Trying to spend time with and relate to someone who doesn't understand or even want to try to understand, gets progressively harder and I am more than ready to spend time with someone who does. (I will spare any readers the continued rantings!)
Questions? Comments? Concerns? Feel free to let me know!
Glad to meet you all!